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Between Germany and Ecuador
lies an ocean.

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A 14-hour flight.

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And there lives my family.

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When I go to sleep,
over there the day has just begun.

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He’s Cesar, my dad.

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He’s never left Ecuador.

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He runs a grill food business.

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I wanted to leave,
went to Germany 12 years ago,

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and became a vegetarian.

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In my teens I tried to contact
with aliens in a meditation group.

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My dad has always been fond of
soap series, action movies and football.

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Probably he sometimes asks himself
if I’m really his son.

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My mum sells cakes

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and she meets people
in a spiritualist group.

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When I was 5 she would tell me:
You are my favourite son.

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But I was the only boy
among my sisters.

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This is the restaurant.

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It has been in construction
for 8 years.

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This is the first floor.

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The second floor

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and the roof.

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The apartment and the restaurant
are on the lower floor.

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From the very start Cesar’s Grill
has just managed to survive.

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Just like everyone in Ecuador.

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At 19, all I wanted was to leave.

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When I received the visa from
Germany, my mum told me:

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My son, enjoy life
as if it were a juicy orange.

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Instead my dad would say:
But you can work with me!

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Since I arrived to Germany
I tried to put Ecuador out of my mind.

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And I thought I had achieved it.

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Until my dad called me

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and asked me
if I could lend him some money.

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How much are all the debts?

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Don’t ask me, I’m the one
who gets cheated most of all here.

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Ask your father!

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I’ll go away if you like.

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He won’t tell me anything anyway.

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- No!
- I’m going! Talk with your son!

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But don’t listen through the keyhole!

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Well, I’m about two years
in arrears with the rent.

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And for some time
I haven’t paid up my bank loan.

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I didn’t go to see them
for a long time.

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It’s simpler to try
and borrow money privately.

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- How much is the interest?
- 20% monthly.

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Wherever a Latin-American
son lives,

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he’ll always be
the survival insurance of his parents.

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My dad had never called me
in Germany.

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And now I have to solve
his restaurant’s problems?

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I had no clue what to do.

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But in a moment of illumination
I had a great idea:

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I advised him to raise the prices
since they had been stuck for years.

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And I sent him an Excel table
to control the expenses.

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- I can't use the Excel table.
- Why?

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It doesn’t work.

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Each cell refers both
to its own figure

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and to a cell that takes the
figure from another one,

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which depends on the original cell
and contains circular references.

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Don’t bother to explain,
just open the document!

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"Expenses" is already open.

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If you open it again
you’ll lose the changes you made.

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- Shall I open it again?
- No.

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My mum’s tired of it and left for my
grandmother's house hours away.

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My dad  says that they haven’t split

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but now he’s alone with
the restaurant and the cakes.

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He certainly called you because
he was desparate.

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He would never call you just to
bother you.

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It was his only chance.
We had problems before,

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but not as bad.

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I think he would probably
listen to you rather than me.

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I’m not so interested anymore
now either.

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Because it’s not my problem, it’s his.

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I won’t try anymore.

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Would it have been better
for my dad

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if I had stayed to work
with him in Ecuador?

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So begins the story of a restaurant,

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and the debts that
we could never repay.

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My father, my uncle,
my grandfather, my mother,

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my cousins, my aunts,
and the newspaper vendor

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are up to their necks in debt.

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Everything is going down the drain.

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I’ve got some photographs
of some restaurants in Hamburg.

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With fabulous decor!

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- What do they sell?
- Meat, skewered grill and Döner.

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- Just look at the uniforms.
- Beautiful.

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He doesn’t look at all
like a meat vendor.

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He doesn’t seem to sell meat.

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He looks more...

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like a doctor.

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- And what is that?
- The toilets.

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So different. So white!

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And you can throw the toilet paper
in the toilet and flush it away?

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- Yes, there’s no bin to put it in.
- That’s bad for the environment.

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And here’s the telephone number,
pasted on the window.

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Here it’s different:
if you throw it in here, you block it.

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- Our pipes are not made for that.
- But they are there.

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- And then the water is recycled.
- All the stuff that comes out?

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- How do they do that?
- With some kind of chemical process.

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And then the same water
is used again?

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- Yes.
- Incredible!

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And... how is it... with...
urine and so on?

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- That too. Everything.
- Everything?

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- They filter it.
- Crazy.

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Hi Mum! How are you?

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The problem with father is...

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I asked him yesterday
how much he earns a day

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and how much he earns a month.

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And after counting up everything,
he makes 232 dollars.

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And that is nothing.

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What I sent was my savings,
but now I have nothing left.

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For 5 years my mum
has been storing up stuff in the cellar.

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She is getting ready for
a time of great changes.

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Since according to information
from insider groups,

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the end of the world is close by.

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Whenever I visit my grandmother
she says

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that she prays every day for me,
my dad and all the family.

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I kill time like this.

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Or I get bored.

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Otherwise I have a bad conscience.

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But these things I can do
and it distracts me at the same time.

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Now everything is tidy.

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That is my daily job.

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And is my father tidy as well?

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Tidy? Dear César?
No idea.

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And the Excel table I sent you...?

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- What table?
- The Excel table.

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- The one your mother had?
- Yes.

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We filled it out once.

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But I don’t know what happened.

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Do you remember when we told you
that we couldn’t add up any more?

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But I sent Mum the updated version

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so that you could go on filling it out.

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Would you like a biscuit?

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My dad and I are masters
in not communicating.

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My mum had always been
the mediator

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whenever my father
wanted to ask me something.

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Luckily we have the restaurant
as topic of conversation;

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It is the only thing
we can talk about for hours.

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The girls have worked with my
father for years, they're part of the family.

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What’s the matter, Rosita,
Gaby isn’t here yet, she’s not coming!

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- Come in!
- Here she comes already!

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Come in!

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Here she is, good!

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Get moving!

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At night I used
to work here as a waiter

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and during the day I
gave drawing lessons to children.

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Rosita’s son
sometimes comes to help.

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They didn’t number the orders.

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The chips for the other order
should be ready soon as well.

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And who is supposed to serve that?

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Who is serving that?
Get a move on!

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Let’s start working out
what we could change with the Pinchos.

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I noticed a few things
that could be improved.

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Such as?

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The order tickets system
doesn’t work. They often get lost.

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You rush around
from kitchen to grill and back again.

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Because the employees
don’t do it right.

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Whoever takes the order
must go first to the kitchen.

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Oh no. First to the grill.

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At weekends there are
too many people in the kitchen.

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- There are 3 people in the kitchen.
- No, just look...

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Last time it was like that.
Normally there are not three, but only two.

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Hasn’t she got anyone
to look after him?

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Usually her mother,
but she isn’t here today.

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I ordered skewered meat.

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Is the gentleman’s Pincho ready yet?

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I ordered it some time ago.
I’m sitting over there.

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I need the order ticket.

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Before, my two sisters used to help.

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But now one lives in Mexico

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and the other 6 hours
from home.

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And what's new, Darío?

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Nothing. All I see is that you're
doing nothing.

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There's something else I noticed:
Everything has to be in stock!

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So you never have to tell customers
"We don’t have that!"

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So when there are no more potatoes,
you have to peel some straight away.

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Customers remember
things like that.

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That's right,

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but if they want chips,

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you don’t necessarily have to make
fresh ones. I don't sell chips.

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Chips are on the menu
and if anyone

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orders four Pinchos
and wants extra chips, they get them.

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But I don’t sell chips on their own!

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But you would still earn something!

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- Then take them off the menu!
- No, because I sell them!

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But it’s not like
I would sell a lot of chips.

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My specialty is meat.

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People who just order chips today
might order Pinchos tomorrow.

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But if you turn them away,
they won’t come back.

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- What is this shop called?
- Which one?

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This one!

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You don’t know?
Javier, what’s this shop called?

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- Delicarnes!
- Delicarnes.

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- You don’t know where you work?
- No, he says he doesn't know.

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But you should know where you
work! You work at Delicarnes.

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- Do you like working here?
- Yes.

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Tell me if you don’t like it.
I’ll start writing out your notice!

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- How’s the business going?
- Fine!

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Nice to hear that! And your
children, are they doing good business too?

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Look! Gatito’s
selling energetic eggs!

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A bit of salt...

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Susana, give me my knife!

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Susana, give me my knife!

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8,50.

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8...65...
says the computer.

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- Cecilia potatoes are wonderful!
- Yes, so tasty!

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They’re done in no time!

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Here’s your money!
May God pay you back!

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Señora Carmita...

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Can I have some potatoes,
but only Cecilia, if you please.

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Marianita,

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give me some maize,
but only the tender ones, please

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and don’t think

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you can put the price up,

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otherwise I’ll go to the
wholesale market!

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Marianita!

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Carmita!

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Why don’t you do your shopping
in the wholesale market?

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There you can buy
a lot for several days.

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Not every day, just once a week.

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I did that once,
but some things

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you can’t buy a lot of, so...

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- Open up the door.
- So...

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For me, going to the market

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every day

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is a way of relaxing.

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I start to come alive.

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Because if I had everything here
and were here all the time...

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Of course I’ve always got something
to do, but meeting people,

00:24:54.560 --> 00:24:57.760
talking to the salesgirls,

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that does me good!

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It’ll be difficult for him
to accept your help.

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He’ll only listen to you
if you tell him you run the restaurant now.

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But if you let him stay in charge
you’ll keep being only his assistant.

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Whatever you do,
it won’t be as good as if he did it himself.

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He’s shut me
out of business matters altogether.

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Did you ever think of opening
half an hour earlier?

00:25:54.440 --> 00:25:57.800
Maybe, but then everyone
would have to come earlier.

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All the employees
would have to start work earlier.

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But you could sell more now
than at half past ten in the evening.

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Now it’s six o’ clock, but then
I would have to light the fire at five!

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Otherwise
it wouldn’t be warm at six.

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Welcome to the Yoga practice video.

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Today we’ll try the hero stance,
a wonderful position

00:26:53.080 --> 00:26:56.840
for inner strength
and self-confidence

00:26:57.000 --> 00:27:02.520
as well as for equanimity
to everyday challenges.

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Stand up front on your mat.

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Breathe out, and clasp
your hands over your chest.

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Breathe in, and lift
your arms up and down,

00:27:13.400 --> 00:27:16.240
breathe out, and bend forward.

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Breathe in, put your right leg back,

00:27:18.960 --> 00:27:21.640
kneel on the floor,
and hold your breath.

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Legs back, body straight, breathe out...

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Breathe in, and come to the cobra,
breathe out, and come to the dog...

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Breathe in, right foot forward,
breathe out, now both legs forward.

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Breathe in, stand up,
raise your arms up and bend back.

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Breathe out, and lower your arms.

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Now you can say to yourself:
I’m as strong as a hero!

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I’m the hero here

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Mightier than the meat vendor.

00:28:10.120 --> 00:28:13.080
Nobody can compete with me,

00:28:15.960 --> 00:28:20.480
if only I find the right words.

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Nobody can compete with me.

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Currently I have the position
of a hero,

00:28:30.400 --> 00:28:32.120
hopefully it will stay this way.

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If I manage to talk with my father,

00:28:39.640 --> 00:28:41.680
Nobody will challenge me!

00:28:48.080 --> 00:28:52.040
The Tungurahua volcano
erupts several times a year.

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Tungurahua means "fire tongue".

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The ash layer can reach 10 cm
and cover everything.

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Many people get throat illnesses
and the town is paralysed.

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Amongst the ashes I still have things
that I didn’t take to Germany.

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- Is that rubbish?
- Those are my pictures!

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- Yours?
- Yes.

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What are you doing?

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I’m just washing them down.

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Could you help me a minute
to roll out the pictures?

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- Yes, just a minute.
- Ok.

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When I began painting
he never showed any interest.

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When I began singing
I never knew if he liked my songs.

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When I showed him my first films

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he would say as he left:

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I have to turn off the rice.

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- What about this one, for example?
- That one?

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It needs a frame.

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- I mean, what do you think that is?
- For me it's a man from outer space.

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His face looks so strange.

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No, I don't know what it is.

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What do you mean?
You’re the one who painted it!

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What’s that noise?

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Something’s making a noise...

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Something is making a noise...

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At least I watered the plants.

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I know it shouldn’t
have been like that.

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I protected him from you,
and the other way round as well.

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I’ve always tried
to mediate between you,

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and keep everything under control.

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Maybe it’s my fault you couldn’t
make better contact with him.

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A lot of things
I should just have let happen.

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Who knows
how it would have finished up then?

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Is that your daughter?

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- No, my daughter-in-law.
- Ah, who’s her husband, then?

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- My son.
- Is he grown up already?

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Not yet, he’s 17!
Don’t you see, how young she is?

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Sure, you're right!

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In a last attempt
I turn to the customers.

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Maybe they have some ideas
that might convince my dad.

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What could be improved here?

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First of all it needs extending.
There are already enough regular guests.

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A faster service
wouldn’t be bad either.

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The service is fine!

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The service could be faster
and you should change the room layout.

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- An extending!
- An extending?

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Yes!

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People can get through here?

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How do we know
it won’t all fall down?

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Well, that’s just what we can’t know.

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- That’s the risk!
- Absolutely!

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While I celebrate
the results of the survey,

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I hear that he’s bought
an expensive board game.

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"Ambatolio" it’s a type of Monopoly

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with places and characters
from the city.

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He doesn’t take seriously
my efforts to save.

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I wonder why I came here.

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The idea of pulling down the wall
is postponed.

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I was worrying so much about the
costs that I couldn’t sleep last night.

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Because the game you bought...

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- Is it too expensive?
- 30 dollars!

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But that was to help a friend!

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But what about you:
you need 5000 dollars!

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Yes of course, but...

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Hey, he needs money to live on.
I only wanted to help.

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- But it is you who needs help.

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- You yourself need help!
- I know, but... hey...

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I’ll soon earn
that money back again!

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- Really?
- Sure!

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And I’m supposed to lend you
the money for tearing the wall down?

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50 dollars for the wall
and you go and buy a game for 30.

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I can give you the 50 dollars
back again next week!

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No problem!

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- When you do something like that...
- It confuses you?

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- No, but it’s like you telling me
what I do here is pointless. - Why?

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Because I’m always trying
to work out how to save money.

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So it was wrong too
to buy the mixer?

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That’s different,
that is an investment, not a game.

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So it means
we can’t afford treats anymore.

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For you that wasn’t a treat,
you wanted to help him!

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- Yes, well no...
- You wanted to feel good by helping.

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Of course I feel good
when I help someone.

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Of course I feel good then!

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If that is supposed to be bad,

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how should I know any longer
what’s good and what’s bad?

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When was the last time
when you had no debts?

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How many years ago?

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It was never like that,
because I’ve always been in debt.

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I always owed money
for something or other.

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Otherwise I would
never have had anything.

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It’s hard for me to tell you that.
I hate to do this.

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When he returns again,
I’ll give it back to him.

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No problem.

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In your life there was...

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Take it easy, just relax. That’s right.

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Let yourself go, relax.

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See this? You had one, two,
three girlfriends.

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But one of them is the girl

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you really loved. This one here.

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You say you've got
a lot from your mother.

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But not your temperament.
You get your temperament from your father,

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not from your mother.

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But I try to be
quite different from my father.

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No, you can’t do that
however much you try.

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That was the trouble:
right from the beginning,

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I always wanted to be different
from my father.

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You won’t be able to, because
your genes are fixed like that.

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You want to be different
from your father, but you’ll never make it.

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You instinctively try.

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- Do you want to change something
with your father? - Yes.

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- What do you want to change?
- I want to change his attitude.

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His and yours,
because he won’t say:

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I forgive you
my son for being like you are.

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If you don’t change yourself,
everything will stay the same.

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What you’ve done so far is
to run away from your problems.

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But the most important thing
is to find yourself,

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and that’s what you are doing.
So I congratulate you.

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Everything will be OK again,
you’ll see.

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Luck...

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can smile on you any time
from morning to evening,

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you can lose it any time
from morning to evening.

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It’s up to you.

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So put things in order.

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Luck...

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You certainly don’t want to lose it!

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You want to keep it forever.

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So put everything in order.

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My aunt called me.
My mum’s in hospital.

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They’ve diagnosed cancer.

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My mum had cancer before
when I was eight.

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In those days
my father took care of us.

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I only remember
that I used to send her little nut-dolls.

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As a child I didn’t know
the meaning of this disease.

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I wasn’t afraid
but I missed her.

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As in the past,
the hospital is hours from home.

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I almost expected it.

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Some times I said to César
what I thought:

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I thought: that can’t be all,

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something has to happen.

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When I was sick,
I reminded myself of that.

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I told myself:
why not get something nice for yourself!

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Don’t get such a stupid sickness.

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I don’t cling to life.

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I’m not frightened of death.

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I just don’t think it’s time for me
to go yet. Simply that.

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I want to live a good life still.

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I don’t want to languish
like a martyr.

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That doesn’t interest me.
I don't want that.

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I spend the nights in the hospital.

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It’s impossible to sleep.

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For days the dizziness doesn’t pass.

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My mom spends the weeks
in between the chemotherapy sessions,

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at my grandmother’s house.

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My dad only comes
at the weekends.

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He has to work,
the treatment is expensive.

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- Don’t you open anymore
on Saturdays? - Yes, I was here!

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- No...
- But yes! Have you been there?

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Yes, I was here the whole week!

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I thought on Saturdays
you went to your...

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- Or was it Sundays?
- Yes, on Sunday I was in Guayaquil.

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How is your wife?

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Better, thanks...

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- We have to sell more!
- Sure.

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Above all, we have to stay here,
because we can’t keep closing.

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Yes, we should always be here.

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We’ll have to see
how to arrange that.

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Here you can’t just stop working.

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I proposed to my dad that I’d stand
in for him a day at the restaurant,

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so he could visit my mum.

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Betty, something’s burning!

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That night everybody
asked for my dad.

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When I told  them that he wasn’t
around I saw disappointment on their faces.

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I realised they came for more
than just a meal.

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- One, two, three.
- And then comes this ticket?

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And that’s with everything.

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- Which one goes where?
- Those go here, the small one there.

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Good night Rosita!

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Was father disappointed
when I went away?

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Because I wasn’t going
to take over the business?

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Could that be true?
Somehow I always had the impression.

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Yes, perhaps
he would really have liked

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you to help him.

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He felt lonely and was very sad.

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He felt abandoned.

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It wasn’t the same
with the daughters.

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When you decided to go,
he really felt...

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abandoned.

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That’s why he couldn’t talk to you
on the phone, because he was crying.

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It hurt him a lot.

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He couldn’t say to you like I do:
Great, Darío, carry on!

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He couldn’t tell you that,
because he missed you so much.

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Daddy: I love you a lot,
thanks for everything you give us,

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and for spending the money
to look after us.

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Your son Darío, 5 years old.

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Like a sea shell.

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Exactly in the middle.

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You could also make three rows.

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My dad and I only used
to talk about the restaurant,

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and now we also talk about
the chemotherapy.

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None of us dares to ask
the other how he feels.

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That’s the way he is,
he was always like that.

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When I ask him how he is,
he says nothing.

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He hasn’t got a single friend
he could tell how he feels.

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I don’t believe he ever
thinks about how he feels.

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But I have no idea why that is.

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I ask myself if that’s the way
one ought to be... or not.

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I don’t know
how you’ll be able to speak to him.

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He’ll certainly cry.

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As soon as you ask him
about his feelings, he’ll start crying.

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And that’ll do him good:
to cry off all his woes and troubles.

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So I hope he can talk with you,
and get rid of his burden.

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Otherwise he never will.
He hardly ever cries.

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If he does, then for a moment
without saying why.

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And afterwards it’s all over again.

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I can’t help you with that,
because I tried myself and failed.

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I could never get him to talk.

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On New Year’s Eve
we burn the old year symbolically

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to drive away all our worries.

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CANCER - YOUR END HAS COME

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The chemotherapy has
damaged other vital organs

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and there is nothing else
we can do for my mum.

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When she was informed
she said triumphantly:

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At least the damned dentist

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isn’t going to make any money
from my bad tooth.

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You can feel that she isn’t afraid.

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A couple of weeks later

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she passed away peacefully in her bed.

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One Saturday my mum summoned
all the family to draw a picture.

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I was about ten years old.

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We had to draw a dream or
something pretty that we had seen recently.

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After finishing everyone
had to explain what  they had drawn.

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My dad was nervous.

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While trying to talk,

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his eyes began to redden
and he was trying not to cry.

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A drop of blood fell from his nose
on to the picture.

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But before we started worrying,

00:57:05.240 --> 00:57:08.920
he quickly drew petals,
a stem and leaves

00:57:09.160 --> 00:57:11.960
and turned the drop of blood
into a red flower.

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Since my mum died
we haven’t spoken about her again.

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I still dream about her.

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I miss her.

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Come in!
This is my son.

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- How old will you be, eighty...?
- 83.

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So you’ll be 84!

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- I'm 83!
- And on September 8th you’ll be 84.

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No, no.

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- How old are you?
- 83.

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That’s why you’ll be 84
on September 8th.

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- I’ll be 85 then.
- No!

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No, Mama, now you’re 83,

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and on September 8th
next week you’ll be 84!

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Seems like a typical men’s problem.

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I find it very difficult
to speak with my father.

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Really? What could you
talk about with him?

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He thinks like an old man,
and you think like a young one.

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So what can you talk about?

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Only about
ordinary everyday things.

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- Does it have to be that way?
- Yes, that’s the way it is.

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- You have to say "Whiskey".
- Whiskey!

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- But here, into the camera!
- Right, I told you.

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Don’t say "Whiskey" to me,
say it to the camera!

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I feel that my dad
wants to change things.

01:00:04.160 --> 01:00:07.560
He now goes to the wholesalers.

01:00:26.360 --> 01:00:29.960
How much are the potatoes?

01:00:48.520 --> 01:00:51.160
He’s running away! Catch him!

01:00:52.600 --> 01:00:55.240
- How much are the carrots?
- 8.50!

01:00:58.360 --> 01:00:59.760
7.50!

01:01:33.480 --> 01:01:35.160
The freezer has broken down

01:01:35.280 --> 01:01:37.560
and before it gets worse,

01:01:37.680 --> 01:01:41.120
I decide to spend
my last savings on a new one.

01:02:02.960 --> 01:02:04.320
Thanks Darío!

01:02:04.520 --> 01:02:07.080
It's not a gift.
I’m your loan shark now!

01:02:07.280 --> 01:02:09.840
No, I mean thanks for bringing it.

01:02:19.920 --> 01:02:22.720
Without my dad listening,
Rosita asks me:

01:02:22.880 --> 01:02:26.680
What do you think about your dad
wanting to sell the restaurant?

01:02:28.520 --> 01:02:32.720
Supposedly, Betty is going to buy it.
She’s even taken out a loan.

01:02:47.480 --> 01:02:50.240
He doesn’t even trust me enough
to tell me.

01:02:52.440 --> 01:02:56.040
He doesn’t care about the only
project we’ve had in common.

01:02:56.640 --> 01:02:58.040
I feel betrayed.

01:02:59.360 --> 01:03:00.920
I need a break.

01:03:13.400 --> 01:03:20.320
Now I’m left alone,

01:03:23.000 --> 01:03:29.440
I’m surrounded with silence.

01:03:33.280 --> 01:03:39.440
What shall I do in all this silence?

01:03:42.600 --> 01:03:45.280
Shall I carry on,

01:03:45.480 --> 01:03:49.840
or just go away?

01:04:06.080 --> 01:04:10.200
I visit the place where
my mum’s ashes were scattered.

01:04:12.720 --> 01:04:15.160
Nature continues on its way.

01:04:22.280 --> 01:04:25.320
We have our dreams,
but we are faced with reality.

01:04:27.160 --> 01:04:33.240
Your dream may be a fantastic one,
but it is not reality.

01:04:34.400 --> 01:04:38.800
You have to learn to love reality.

01:04:40.280 --> 01:04:45.800
If he had not been the way he was,

01:04:45.960 --> 01:04:50.920
you would have become
a different Darío.

01:04:56.080 --> 01:04:58.440
- Did Betty tell you anything?
- About what?

01:04:58.600 --> 01:05:00.640
That she wants
to buy the restaurant.

01:05:00.800 --> 01:05:03.320
No no, that was just an idea.

01:05:03.480 --> 01:05:06.000
Why, did she tell you anything?

01:05:06.160 --> 01:05:10.400
No, I’ve seen you whispering
together a lot, so I thought...

01:05:10.560 --> 01:05:13.360
No no, she was only digging.

01:05:13.520 --> 01:05:17.720
But I told her
I can’t make any decision now,

01:05:17.880 --> 01:05:22.000
because I still have
to pay off my debts.

01:05:22.200 --> 01:05:27.920
I can’t afford to
be unemployed right now.

01:05:28.080 --> 01:05:30.720
What would I do without money?

01:05:31.680 --> 01:05:35.560
Maybe next year sometime...
We'll see.

01:05:36.360 --> 01:05:38.280
The fact is...

01:05:38.920 --> 01:05:41.040
How shall I say?

01:05:42.320 --> 01:05:47.480
I don’t feel well here,
but I can’t leave.

01:05:47.640 --> 01:05:49.640
- Because of the house?
- Yes.

01:05:58.160 --> 01:06:02.240
- But it's because of the house?
- Yes, sure.

01:06:03.600 --> 01:06:06.600
But I can’t go away.

01:06:07.440 --> 01:06:11.200
I owe the landlord so much money.

01:06:13.840 --> 01:06:16.960
- And because of mother as well?
- Of course.

01:06:17.680 --> 01:06:20.480
What other reason could I have?

01:06:26.760 --> 01:06:29.520
I told Betty I’m staying here.

01:06:30.120 --> 01:06:36.200
Because it’s convenient here with
the apartment and the business.

01:06:36.400 --> 01:06:38.400
But I...

01:06:40.680 --> 01:06:43.000
shall be alone.

01:06:48.720 --> 01:06:52.000
Sunday is the only day, when I'm...

01:06:53.080 --> 01:06:55.880
when I'm lonely.

01:07:00.080 --> 01:07:04.280
And I’m not ready yet
to look for a new partner.

01:07:08.040 --> 01:07:13.920
- That’ll take some time.
- After all, it’s only two months ago.

01:07:26.720 --> 01:07:31.280
- It still hurts.
- It hurts a lot, dad.

01:07:33.920 --> 01:07:36.960
But one has to carry on with life.

01:07:38.520 --> 01:07:39.800
You have to carry on.

01:07:47.000 --> 01:07:52.200
For him the most important thing
in life is you. Of that I’m certain.

01:07:52.920 --> 01:07:57.440
You are the most important
thing in his life.

01:08:00.160 --> 01:08:05.000
Almost as if he sees himself
reflected in you.

01:08:56.560 --> 01:09:00.720
Sometimes your mother
invited me for a cup of coffee

01:09:00.880 --> 01:09:04.240
in a bakery shop that still exists.

01:09:04.720 --> 01:09:06.880
That's where she invited me.

01:09:07.080 --> 01:09:12.920
There we where together
enjoying coffee and cakes.

01:09:13.120 --> 01:09:16.480
And it was nice, because we...

01:09:16.960 --> 01:09:21.280
because we were
very close to each other.

01:09:22.160 --> 01:09:24.440
Right from the beginning!

01:09:25.480 --> 01:09:27.560
That was lovely!

01:09:57.760 --> 01:10:01.960
For 25 years we haven’t visited
“La Hacienda” where my dad grew up.

01:10:04.160 --> 01:10:06.560
I remember an enormous forest,

01:10:06.720 --> 01:10:10.080
playing and fishing
in the river with my dad,

01:10:10.240 --> 01:10:13.720
and the fragrance
of my grandmother’s breakfast.

01:10:16.680 --> 01:10:21.680
As a child these were the only
moments when I felt my dad near.

01:11:15.280 --> 01:11:17.320
I never met my grandfather.

01:11:18.640 --> 01:11:21.360
He died
when my dad was 21 years old.

01:11:22.480 --> 01:11:24.600
The house I remember doesn't
exist anymore.

01:11:26.360 --> 01:11:29.160
They've been rebuilding it
for some years.

01:11:32.640 --> 01:11:34.160
This is where my room was.

01:11:34.320 --> 01:11:36.480
- Where? Here?
- Yes!

01:11:44.920 --> 01:11:48.200
How strange that
the house is no longer here.

01:11:51.640 --> 01:11:53.120
Very strange.

01:11:59.280 --> 01:12:02.320
- Did you have good relations
with... - With whom?

01:12:02.520 --> 01:12:05.400
with your brother Fernando?

01:12:05.560 --> 01:12:08.120
Him and me? Yes...!

01:12:09.320 --> 01:12:11.560
We never had any problems.

01:12:11.720 --> 01:12:14.880
And with grandfather?

01:12:16.000 --> 01:12:18.240
We? Yes...

01:12:19.760 --> 01:12:22.520
He worked the whole time.

01:12:24.040 --> 01:12:26.800
We hardly ever spoke,

01:12:26.960 --> 01:12:30.560
because he was always here
in the finca.

01:12:31.440 --> 01:12:37.720
Until I was 21.
And then he fell ill.

01:12:41.960 --> 01:12:44.760
He told me that as a child
he spent a lot of time alone.

01:12:46.200 --> 01:12:48.400
It was difficult for him
to make friends.

01:12:49.520 --> 01:12:51.760
He was shy and insecure.

01:12:53.760 --> 01:12:57.080
I understand him well because now,
at 33 years old,

01:12:57.240 --> 01:13:00.720
I still don’t dare to ask him
what he thinks about me.

01:13:02.480 --> 01:13:03.640
He never told me.

01:13:04.760 --> 01:13:09.200
And with the years I realise
that his silence hurts me more.

01:13:32.840 --> 01:13:35.320
There wasn’t much
understanding between us.

01:13:36.680 --> 01:13:41.080
When I wanted to get married,
I didn’t know how to tell him.

01:13:41.240 --> 01:13:45.600
It was hard for me
to talk about it with him.

01:13:45.760 --> 01:13:50.880
In those days talking with one’s
father was much more difficult.

01:13:51.040 --> 01:13:55.760
All he did was just provide for us.

01:13:55.920 --> 01:14:01.200
It was not easy to talk
about any particular thing.

01:14:02.160 --> 01:14:05.600
There was always
a kind of resistance.

01:14:25.440 --> 01:14:27.520
Age is getting on me!

01:14:36.600 --> 01:14:39.640
Did your father ever talk about

01:14:40.760 --> 01:14:44.160
what you did?

01:14:45.800 --> 01:14:49.800
- About my...
- About your job, your wishes, your ideas.

01:14:49.960 --> 01:14:52.200
- Never.
- Not at all?

01:14:52.360 --> 01:14:56.600
- So you never knew what he
thought about you? - No.

01:14:56.760 --> 01:14:59.280
Not as far as I can remember.

01:15:00.160 --> 01:15:04.040
The only thing he wanted
was for me to study.

01:15:05.600 --> 01:15:09.160
Nothing else.
Only that I should study.

01:15:10.800 --> 01:15:13.360
With me it’s like for example...

01:15:13.520 --> 01:15:17.760
well, I don’t know either
what you think about me.

01:15:17.920 --> 01:15:21.720
- Oh, you don’t know
what I think about you?  - No.

01:15:21.880 --> 01:15:26.280
Now you tell me,
I can understand a lot much better.

01:15:26.440 --> 01:15:31.720
Well, what I think about you,
for example, is...  Well, I...

01:15:31.880 --> 01:15:34.800
Actually, I feel that...

01:15:34.960 --> 01:15:37.040
I’m able to...

01:15:40.080 --> 01:15:43.840
get easily...

01:15:45.080 --> 01:15:49.560
get easily
into conversation with people.

01:15:50.800 --> 01:15:55.640
And I always wanted
to be an actor on stage.

01:15:55.800 --> 01:15:59.080
Not particularly in films,
because that didn’t exist much before.

01:15:59.240 --> 01:16:02.280
But I always felt that...

01:16:02.440 --> 01:16:07.400
I had the talent to be an actor.

01:16:09.000 --> 01:16:11.720
That was actually my dream.

01:16:11.920 --> 01:16:16.120
So that’s why I think
that what you do,

01:16:16.280 --> 01:16:19.440
what you’ve achieved
is just great.

01:16:19.600 --> 01:16:21.280
I think that

01:16:21.440 --> 01:16:24.720
sharing each other’s experiences,

01:16:24.880 --> 01:16:29.160
not only mine,
but other people’s as well,

01:16:29.320 --> 01:16:34.360
and recording them on video,
I think that’s wonderful.

01:16:34.520 --> 01:16:36.920
For me that’s really great.

01:16:37.080 --> 01:16:39.800
I’m very proud of you.

01:16:39.960 --> 01:16:42.360
Once I told a friend:

01:16:42.520 --> 01:16:45.720
Hey, you can’t image
what Darío does.

01:16:45.880 --> 01:16:48.040
Just what I myself
would have loved to do.

01:16:48.240 --> 01:16:51.480
Have the things I do
recorded on video.

01:16:52.280 --> 01:16:55.160
But that wasn’t possible
in those days.

01:16:56.360 --> 01:16:59.840
There was no way to do it.

01:17:00.000 --> 01:17:02.440
That’s why you must never
lose courage.

01:17:02.600 --> 01:17:07.560
You must always go your way.
I'm sure you'll be very successful.

01:17:09.600 --> 01:17:12.160
That’s the most important of all.

01:17:12.320 --> 01:17:17.520
- Thanks!
- My son! You're great. I love you a lot!

01:17:19.560 --> 01:17:23.680
You see:
everything is turning out fine.

01:17:23.840 --> 01:17:28.200
You can achieve everything
if you work on it enough.

01:17:28.600 --> 01:17:31.120
- Go to it, my son.
- Yes.

01:17:31.280 --> 01:17:34.480
And you can be sure
I’ll back you up.

01:18:18.760 --> 01:18:20.320
Say "Whiskey"!

01:18:24.280 --> 01:18:25.720
Cocolon.

01:18:26.000 --> 01:18:27.840
- Whiskey.
- Whiskey, Cocolon.

01:18:30.600 --> 01:18:33.360
- Why Cocolon?
- Just so, Coco-lon!

01:19:04.320 --> 01:19:07.800
It looks bigger, you see?

01:19:07.960 --> 01:19:10.240
Don't you think it looks bigger?

01:19:12.120 --> 01:19:14.640
- The room...
- It seems bigger.

01:19:14.800 --> 01:19:18.000
- Don’t you think?
- Yes. It seems bigger.

01:19:30.320 --> 01:19:34.920
Did you think I would ever
manage to go to Germany?

01:19:35.360 --> 01:19:37.000
No.

01:19:37.160 --> 01:19:39.440
Never in my wildest dreams.

01:19:39.600 --> 01:19:44.480
Because you knew
we didn’t have the money for that.

01:19:45.080 --> 01:19:49.480
I don't know what magic you used,

01:19:49.640 --> 01:19:52.880
how you actually managed to go.

01:19:56.800 --> 01:20:00.600
I had the feeling
that you were angry.

01:20:00.760 --> 01:20:03.760
- What about?
- That I....

01:20:03.920 --> 01:20:06.600
That I would go
and leave you behind.

01:20:06.760 --> 01:20:10.320
It was the time
when I was working in the restaurant.

01:20:10.480 --> 01:20:13.320
No, that wasn’t anger.

01:20:13.480 --> 01:20:16.480
I wasn’t angry, because after all...

01:20:18.840 --> 01:20:22.480
you were already grown up,
and I couldn’t tie you down.

01:20:22.640 --> 01:20:27.080
Just like they
couldn’t hold me back earlier on.

01:20:30.320 --> 01:20:34.200
- And your first impulse...?
- I thought that you should stay.

01:20:34.360 --> 01:20:37.360
So that someone
would take over the restaurant.

01:20:37.520 --> 01:20:41.120
And above all
so that you would help me.

01:20:41.280 --> 01:20:46.600
But I was never disappointed,
I’ll tell you that.

01:20:47.280 --> 01:20:52.400
I was never disappointed,
I even thought: how great!

01:21:04.040 --> 01:21:08.080
- We could paint that up.
- The front?

01:21:11.240 --> 01:21:14.520
As debts increased,
instead of reducing,

01:21:14.680 --> 01:21:17.840
at least this time
our farewell has to be different.

01:21:18.000 --> 01:21:22.120
To celebrate my departure
and the restaurant’s 15th jubilee,

01:21:22.560 --> 01:21:25.960
I had the idea
of celebrating a special party.

01:21:53.680 --> 01:21:59.280
- What does that say? Bavaria.
- Bavaria-Munich! The football club!

01:22:11.200 --> 01:22:13.760
That’s great for you.

01:22:15.400 --> 01:22:18.400
It should be like this.

01:22:19.280 --> 01:22:22.280
You look great in it!

01:22:23.520 --> 01:22:24.840
Damn it...

01:22:25.400 --> 01:22:27.680
Yes, perfect!

01:24:42.560 --> 01:24:45.840
My dad fell in love at the party.

01:24:46.600 --> 01:24:49.160
He hardly dares to tell me.

01:24:50.080 --> 01:24:55.000
For example... I... I think...

01:24:58.040 --> 01:25:00.880
- Can I tell you something?
- Yes.

01:25:03.560 --> 01:25:07.520
I’m going through a phase...

01:25:07.680 --> 01:25:09.760
a process...

01:25:15.240 --> 01:25:16.720
I  told him:

01:25:17.120 --> 01:25:19.960
It's the best that could happen
to you.

01:25:21.360 --> 01:25:24.440
I felt well, leaving him so happy.

01:25:27.240 --> 01:25:31.040
She told me...

01:25:31.320 --> 01:25:34.680
My... my...

01:25:36.800 --> 01:25:39.440
That's why I tell you,
this is something special.

01:25:40.600 --> 01:25:43.240
She told me:
I always wanted to buy...

01:25:43.560 --> 01:25:45.360
Like your mother said as well...

01:25:45.680 --> 01:25:48.680
Oh, look! The gasman!

01:26:14.720 --> 01:26:17.960
So ends the story of a restaurant

01:26:18.120 --> 01:26:22.360
We still have debts,
but somehow or other we pay them off.

01:26:23.000 --> 01:26:26.760
The clouds are clearing
and my father is now my friend.

01:26:26.920 --> 01:26:31.240
The future is uncertain
but we've made a start!

01:26:31.560 --> 01:26:34.920
Resurrection!

01:26:35.960 --> 01:26:39.160
Resurrection!